Your sex life can’t always be one filled with hot, sweaty nights and orgasms till you can’t take them anymore. As much as we’d all love that, sometimes,
problems arise and you’re left with no other option but to do the best to get
your sex life back to the way it was in the beginning. It might be that one of
you can’t seem to be satisfied or the lack of connection between you two or the
absence of sexual urges etc. Here are
simple ways to deal with any issues in the bedroom.
- Be open with each other: If anything, your partner deserves your complete honesty. If you keep it all in and allow the problems to keep piling up, you begin to disconnect from your partner until resentment begins to build until it becomes the big rock that tears you both apart. If you’re not feeling it, let your partner know.
- Get to the root of your problems: This might be a very difficult task because it might end up opening a lot of wounds or dirty laundry or even secret but it’s important to understand where the issues between you two are coming from. It is from here that you determine if it was something as mild as boredom or as serious as a health issue or anything else in between.
- Try new things: In the spirit of getting to the root of the problems, you might want to try new things in your sex life. Go the extra mile, do things you wouldn't do, try out new positions just to find if it works for you or gives another result then; you can get a glimpse into what your problems are.
- Get back to the start: Remember how it felt when you both began – The excitement, the love, the sweet words, the effort that was put in and the time that was created. Get back to that place… re-create the memories if you have to and try to re-connect to each other. That might just be all it takes.
- Where is the love? Communicate! You need to re-fire the intimacy between you two. In this case, beyond sex… hold each other, cuddle, talk to each other, reveal your desires and wants and find yourselves again.
- Get to a doctor: If you've tried everything else and it’s still not right, then, you have no choice than to meet with a doctor. It’s a difficult choice to make, I know but it is a very important one because a lot of issues with intimacy actually stem from medical conditions and a lot of people live on never knowing because if the shame and the fear to meet with a doctor.
- See a counselor/therapist/professional: They do exist in Nigeria! The doctor might even end up referring you to them if they feel that it is a necessary step for you both. Sometimes, a couple may not be able to reveal certain things to each other but having the counselor as the middle man helps to explore your relationship further (professionally)
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Nice one,tanks for this piece
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